Dear random Sierra Leoneans,
I have a tricky problem. I have been married for over 10 years and I love my wife. But a new girl has just moved to town and I can't take my eyes off of her. Not only that, but she clearly wants to be with me too. I don't know what to do. Can you help?
Mr. Douda writes:
Dear Lusty Lover,
I have much to say to you.
First thing first: you love your wife and you're married. You should try to forget about your new lover and concentrate on your wife. Cheating isn't good. I hate cheating.
Tell the girl: I can't make it with you any longer, it's over. Try to stop thinking about her. The same way you got in love with the new girlfriend, you must fall out of love with her.
The reason is this: you could end up breaking your wife heart and your girlfriend heart at the same time.
In the long run, while both are loving, you will end up paying more attention to your girlfriend beacuse she's new. And that's not fair play.
Then for your wife: if she finds out, obviously the household will be corrupt. She will not take care of the children, she will not take care of the house. And that will be a big emabarrassment.
You should talk to the girlfriend in a way she can understand. For example, on your first day sailing, you don't know what the water is like. If you go sail out far and don't know how to swim, you could drown. Before you get into trouble you should turn back and get on shore.